When change and challenge are knocking at your door, do you at times get a feeling of self-doubt creeping in? That is, moments when you start thinking “you are not good enough” or “what you have is not good enough”?
I know those moments: we all have them. Let’s talk about how to turn them around.
How? With what I call the “4Cs of Confidence.”
Confidence is a muscle you build through skillful exertion, not as some people think a personality trait. It comes from purposeful thinking and action which empowers you.
“When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.”
~Honore de Balzac
Your moment of doubt is the moment to implement your 4Cs. Here they are:
Competence: Think of your wins, knowledge, skills, and talents. The more competence you have or start to gain in a task the more confident you can become.
Compassion: Self-doubt and insecurity that you feel may also come from being hard on yourself and allowing the self-negative talk to continue. As soon as you are aware of this negative self-talk shift it to compassion by releasing the self-judgement and talking to yourself as if you were talking to someone you deeply care about.
Congruence: When your thinking, feeling, and actions are in alignment you can trust yourself more. We all can sense when we are not being true to ourselves, or those moments when we are not in harmony between inner feelings and outer actions.
Connection: When we feel connected to others, we feel better about ourselves. We know we are not alone and that helps us feel more valued and confident. We also can learn more about ourselves through interaction with others.
